Speaking of the heart<3 Heart disease runs in my family so this is a topic near to my heart. In my opinion heart disease is really a love disease.
What I've observed over the years about the heart dis-ease in my family were the obvious things, smoking & eating habits. But, what I also noticed was the inability or resistance to give and receive love. There was a lot of hardening of the heart in my family. I don't think my family is alone on this. When you carry around years of unresolved pain, shit starts getting heavy. How can the heart keep up?!
We have all suffered some sort of pain in our lives that has caused us to want to shut down our hearts. Some of these decisions were made as children, some not, some conscious, some not.
When my dad died four years ago, I vowed to myself that I would open my heart and to learn to give and receive love. I have always taken care of my heart physically (well for a long time anyway) but I had definitely hardened it years ago and it hasn't been easy dropping the habit. And that’s what it is, a habit! The good thing about habits is that they can be changed. We have a choice! My dad always told me– “it’s your choice, Miss Boice!” Damn I hated hearing it then but now I remind myself of it each day. Wise man.
We all want to keep ourselves safe. But what we don't realize is that hardening of the heart causes us to shut out and actually push away what it is we are so desperately wanting – LOVE!
Have you ever tried to get close to someone who has a hardened heart? It's literally impossible.
The path of healing the heart takes courage and trust! Courage to love again. Courage to let others close again. Courage to drop the story and make a new choice. Trust that you can handle whatever happens. Trust that your life is unfolding perfectly – the perceived good and bad.
The heart is quite literally a muscle. Muscles need to be exercised. Giving – Receiving, Loving – Hurting, Expanding – Contracting – Expanding some more. Stretch those heart muscles! You CAN handle it! It’s just energy passing through.
Part of my practice now is this --> when I feel my heart closing around a certain situation, I consciously open it instead. I feel a tightening in my chest and I breathe and make a choice to expand it instead. It’s never as bad as we think. Especially, when we open and allow whatever it is to pass through. It’s energy passing through. The hardening, darkness and heaviness come from closing and holding on.
When we close our hearts around a situation, we cut off flow. When we allow ourselves to remain open, emotions can pass on through. They don’t have to become a heaviness that we carry around for years to come.
Start paying attention to your heart and what it’s trying to show you. Your heart is your greatest teacher. Drop down the heavy walls and let it expand. You are safe. You are love. You are free.
PS. Ready to break through, drop the bull shit and get on with living/loving? Message me, let’s talk!