We are going through some pretty intense times right now. Nearly everyone I know is going through some sort of major change. Change can be unsettling. Even positive changes are often scary. Even though we are asking for change in our lives, our tendency is to cling to what we know. Especially when so many things in your life are changing. It can feel like the rug is getting pulled out from under you.
Fall is the time of harvest but it’ also a time for stripping away the excess and simplifying our lives before going into the cold, darker cycle of winter. We will need more energy reserves to sustain ourselves in the winter. Winter is a more internal time. It’s a time for going within and reflecting. This internal time is necessary to bring forth the new burst of life in the spring.
Many of us already know this but it’s still easy to get caught up in the feelings of loss or fear when you see things in your life slipping away.
The key here is trust! Take a step back from what’s in front of your face and view the overall picture of your life. It’s hard to see clearly when you are holding something up to your nose. This is often the perspective from which we view our lives. When you feel like your world is falling apart, take a step back to gain a larger perspective.
What have you been asking for in your life? When you ask for something from your heart of hearts, the Universe (God, Spirit) will start working to bring this change into your life. But often, other things have to change first. You may not have room in your life for what you are asking for. You may not be able to get from there from here so you start experiencing a series of changes to direct you on your new path.
When this change starts happening, you freak out and think the worse. It is human nature to fear change. We asked for more in our lives, not less. But sometimes we have to let go of something in order for something new to emerge.
Here are three tips to help you ride the waves of change in your life:
I hope you find these ideas helpful. If you are going through a difficult time and want some extra support, message me. I would love to support you through your transition. I always have someone to work with during my most trying times. Sometimes we need someone else to hold the light and encourage us until we can see the truth of who we are.
From my heart to yours!
Lots of Love,
Nutritionist, Empowerment & Transformation Coach
I know how frustrating it can be to struggle for years with a health concern. You try this, you try that. You go see this person, maybe this new thing will help. You turn yourself inside out looking for answers but still nothing.
I have been working to heal my gut for over 15 years. Of course when I started there wasn't a lot of information out there on this topic. This was before anyone had even heard the word gluten or food sensitivity.
I had been chronically constipated ever since I could remember. In my early 20s I began working with a GI doctor and was soooo happy to find a product called Miralax, which is a daily laxative. It's over the counter now. It got things moving for me and I was happy. As time went on though, things started slowing down again and I started bloating after meals.
Every time I went back to the doctor, they upped my dosage and wanted to add on more and more medications. The doctors said I would be on this medication for the rest of my life. It was then that I started questioning. Why am I so constipated and bloated? How can I heal my body? The doctors didn't have the answers to these questions so I started my path into alternative healing.
I began trying different ways of eating, fasting, cleansing, juicing. I have eaten nearly every diet out there. Some helped for a short time and others made things worse. Some I just flat out wasn't able to maintain (like eating raw). I went from this healing modality to that one. I tried everything I could get my hands on.
It took me a long time but I finally found a way of eating where I feel great! My bowels are moving without any supplementation, I have so much more clarity and energy. I'm no longer bloated or swollen. I feel great in my body! And it’s an eating style that I can actual maintain! And I've been teaching it to my clients for years with outstanding results.
I've seen people drop 60+ pounds, get out of pain (fibro and arthritic), get off of meds, skin clearing up (eczema, psoriasis), gain mental clarity, recover from ADHD and so much more!
So what is this eating style? It’s the one I’ve been telling you about in my Energize program. It's eating REAL food. That's it! Many people ask me "What is real food?"
Real food consists of pastured, grass fed meat, veggies, fruit, nuts, seeds and eggs.
I teach people to eat close to the source. When you eat foods that are alive, they give you life. When you eat foods that are dead, you tend toward dis-ease. You see the more times someone touches your food before you get it, the more processed it is which means the more chemicals it contains. What kind of chemicals are needed to make a product good on the shelf for 2 years?
We are so accustomed to stuffing ourselves with grains and boxed food. But the truth is that farmers feed wheat and corn to animals to fatten them up. What do you think these foods are doing to people? It is making us overweight, congested, bloated, sluggish, and so much more!
Okay, great! Soo...."What am I going to eat???"
Well, let me simplify this for you. I have been eating this way for 4 years and I know the ins and outs. Plus I have a 7 year old so the recipes I make are fast, easy and kid friendly. I am a single mom with my own business. I know how it is to be super busy! I will teach you how to make REAL FOOD into FAST FOOD!
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Here's what others have said about Energize.
I learned so much more than I expected. My digestion, diet, energy, sleep all improved. I lost 12 lbs in 3 weeks. I feel healthier then I have in a long time. I feel great which improves my body image. It really is a lifestyle change for the better! JS
This has been a fantastic 3 weeks eating a variety of foods easily prepared and incredibly delicious. I feel great and now know that I can eat lots of good nutritious foods and feel full so I no longer need the junk food. MC
The food in this program is so delicious and easy to prepare. The cooking classes make the world of difference. I learned how quick and easy it is to eat healthy. I learned how to cook in a completely different way. My energy level, mood and acid reflux have all improved. I'm so happy to have had this experience. Thank you. JC
My husband lost 12 pounds in the first week and in the three week elimination phase he lost over 20 lbs. My daughter not only went down a pant size, she lost 12 pounds in the three week elimination phase. Both have kept this weight off since! Skin issues started clearing up for the first time in over 1.5 years!!! Everyone's energy level is better and we all realize how crappy we were feeling as a baseline of experience before. We're all choosing to eat this way as a way of life now and going forward, thanks to the cleanse/upgrade of the three weeks! We started only because of the girls symptoms and now we are ALL experiencing SIGNIFICANT improvements in our bodies and how we think and feel every day!!!! - J S
I feel like a new person! I'm not tired. I finally have energy. I sleep better. I feel better. I look better. I lost 53 lbs and went down 4 pants sizes! I look at food totally different now. I want to eat what is fresh from the earth instead of what is processed and lifeless. I feel better than I've ever felt before. You've really changed my whole view of eating. You truly inspired me. It's been about 10 months since our appointment and I still follow your plan to this day. It is a lifestyle for me now. My migraines are gone too! Thank you with all of my heart for everything you've done for me. Leslie
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Creating Love & Wellness,
Are you listening to yourself? What do you hear yourself repeating over and over again? Pay attention. Is there something you say repeatedly to someone in your life? If the answer is yes, that message is for you!
Relationships are these fabulous mirrors. We create relationships externally that reflect the relationships we have with ourselves. We teach others how to treat us. People treat us the way we believe they will treat us. Someone may see you one way in the beginning but over time, you will convince them of your belief you have of yourself and eventually they will start treating you the way you “thought” they would. Our relationships are our greatest teachers.
This a great example of what I mean. I had been telling my daughter for weeks “I don’t want to be talked to like that.” “I don’t like that tone.” Yet it just kept going. I felt like she was complaining A LOT. It always seemed to happen when she didn’t get her way. Which is typical for a 7 year old but this was overkill. It was really starting to wear on me. I also noticed that I was the only one she was taking the tone with. So I started paying more attention to see what the situation was trying to teach me. It finally hit me.
I’ve been working with my self-talk for years. I thought I was being pretty nice to myself. Yet, here I was. I had done something that wasn’t the best idea for me. Ok, I don’t usually regret things but I was not happy with myself. And that’s when I noticed it. There was part of me in there just complaining nonstop!! Going on and on about how badly I had screwed up. Blah, blah, blah….Complaining up a storm!
So I started paying more attention to my inner talk again and sure enough, when things didn’t go my way, part of me was chronically complaining about it. Things would flow along good as long as things were going my way but when something didn’t go my way, there it was! Blah, blah, blah……
The coolest part is that once you shine a light on these things, often times they just drop away. Both internally and externally. Awareness is amazing! And sometimes they take repeated focus to shift things.
Start listening to the things you are telling others this week. Pay particular attention to the things that get repeated. Then pay attention to your own internal conversations and see if that message is really intended for you.
PS. Check out the video on my Create Your Life page. Click the link below the video to get free access to my Create Your Life Workshop. http://www.createwellness.me/create-your-life.html.
Lots of love,
Feeling stuck? Low energy got you down? Let’s take a look at what is draining you.
Of course food is key in maintaining a healthy energy level. When we eat foods that are alive, they bear life. We feel more vital. We have more natural energy. When we eat foods that are dead (packaged), you feel bloated, sluggish and tired. I teach these tools in my Energize program.
Food is very important to maintaining optimal energy but there are other factors that are affecting your energy level too. The decisions we make (or don’t make) on a regular basis have more impact in how you feel than you realize.
1. Overwhelm – sometimes we reach those points in our lives where we don’t know what to do, where to turn and everything is so tightly held together that you don’t know what to do first so you end up doing nothing. Being stuck is a huge energy drain. It feels like everything is piling up on you and many times it is. The problem is, you lack the energy to do anything about it. You feel stuck so the pile grows bigger and bigger and your willingness to do anything about it decreases. Now, your energy level and health suffer big time. You would be AMAZED at what I’ve seen clear up for people physically when they start cleaning up their lives.
2. Fear – Fear is the silent killer. Fear quietly strangles the life and energy right out of you. Fear is like an enchantress. It captivates your attention and robs you of your precious energy. The more you focus on your fear, the more it drains you. It keeps you from moving forward which eventually creates overwhelm as discussed above. Fear causes you to contract which keeps you cut off from your Source energy. Contraction = Energy Blockages (physically, emotionally and spiritually). Blockages can play out in many different ways in your life.
3. Indecision – is a HUGE energy drain! When you put off making important decisions, it quite literally drains you. Your life is trying to flow along like a river. When you come to a crossroad, it’s important to decide so you can keep flowing. Otherwise, you exert lots of energy to resist the flow. Imagine how much energy it takes to hold back a dam. That’s essentially what you are doing when you hang out in indecision. It takes an incredible amount of energy to carry around multiple things. Sometimes you just have to choose so you can keep moving.
There are more but these are the three most common energy drains that I help my clients resolve. And as you can see they are all closely related to one another. You can see how hanging out in fear or indecision can quickly lead to overwhelm. It’s very important to get into the habit of staying in the flow of your life.
But what happens when you’ve been clinging to the side for so long and you’re terrified to let go? What if you’ve created a whole pool of stagnation trying to avoid the flow of river? After all, the river can be turbulent at times.
The answer is TRUST! You HAVE TO TRUST! You have to trust yourself! Trust God (your Higher Power) and trust the flow that is your life! You may have had a reason at one point in your life to close down and to stop trusting but you can learn to open again. Trusting doesn’t mean that nothing “bad” will ever happen again (things you don’t like). It means trusting that your life does have meaning and that it is unfolding exactly as it needs to to move you further along your healing path.
It’s trusting that you can handle it. You have more resources now. You will know what to do when the river bends, when you reach those turbulent waters. You can learn to navigate them. You can do this!
Holding on, contracting, blocking the flow - keeps us in the dark. The truth is – there is unlimited abundance available to each and every one of us. But we have to be brave enough, committed enough and clear enough to open back up so we can receive it. We have to be willing to expand our view. We have to step out in faith and learn to trust again.
PS. Do you feel stuck in your life? I can help. Sometimes we just need someone to sit down and help us untangle the knots we’ve created. We can sit down and pull them apart one by one. You will regain more clarity and energy as you go. Get your life back! Don’t keep sitting around in the dark by yourself. Start trusting and let someone help! <3 http://www.createwellness.me/create-your-life.html
I don’t know about you but it has taken me a LONG time to really understand boundaries. I certainly wasn’t taught healthy boundaries as a child. I was in the 90s group of Codependents. I remember reading books about boundaries and trying to understand all of the guidelines. So….if I was in this situation then respond this way, in that situation act this other way. It was really quite complex and heady to me. Especially since I’m an empath.
I have always been able to feel what is going on in situations. I feel what people are feeling. If someone is upset, I sense it right away. If someone is anxious, I feel that emotion. It took me years to sort this out! It took me years to determine which thoughts and emotions were mine and which ones belonged to other people. For years I was flying blind.
My daughter has taught me a great deal about boundaries! She has definitely taught me the importance of establishing good boundaries. Kids will push every boundary you have and if you aren’t clear on where your boundaries are, you better get clear real fast or you will have a mess on your hands.
This is how I came up with the material for my Transform class. I literally got pushed past my limits! Between being a single mom with a storefront, a 2 year old child (at the time), a sick father that died, chronic gut problems - I was tapped out. I had pushed myself past my energetic limits, big time. Before this point in my life, I thought I had endless energy. Then before I knew it, I had myself in the biggest tangle of my whole life. I had created more than I could handle. I was tapped out.
Boundaries saved my life! Quite literally. I had to start setting some boundaries and fast. My life depended on it.
I started viewing my energy level like my bank account. I knew that I had to seal any leaks, meaning that I had to see where I was spending my energy unnecessarily. Were there certain tasks I could eliminate or get someone else to do? Did I really need to setup at a booth all of those events, just because I was invited. Was I saying yes where I needed to say no? You get the idea. This process allowed me to get more energy back in my pocket.
Then I began finding ways to ground my energy. I realized my energy had been scattered. I was too outwardly focused. I started finding ways to pull my energy back into MY life, MY family and MY body.
Now that I was present, I saw that I needed to strengthen my boundaries. It was time to get clear about what was important in my life and to commit myself to those things through the choices I made on a daily basis. I created a boundary around what I wanted to grow in my life and said no to the rest.
At this point, I was no longer in crisis mode. I had recouped lots of energy and my levels were balancing out. Now it was time to focus on things that would bring me more energy again! I had the clarity, strength and focus to spend more time doing what fed me, what gave me joy and more energy.
Now, I no longer take my energy for granted. I realize that I have to make decisions every day to stay in alignment with what I want to nurture and create more of in my life. And that doesn't always make me popular. I have to say no more. I have to linger less. I have to trust and believe in my own guidance and path even when others don't understand.
I love teaching others how to recoup their energy, create healthy boundaries, streamline their focus and start tapping into their heart space so they can start creating their life on their own terms! If you are ready to get your life back, PM me. I would love to work with you. Also, check out my online Transform class. http://www.createwellness.me/transform.html. <3
Someone asked me what I meant when I said that my practice was to remain open when I felt myself wanting to close. They wanted to know what that actually looks like. The best way to describe what I’m talking about is through an example.
I will use an example of the heart. If deep down you believe that you are unlovable or unworthy of love, you will actually push away love when it does present itself to you. You will not be able to recognize it because you will unconsciously search for evidence to support your belief that you are unlovable. That’s how our minds work! Our mind is like a computer that seek evidence to support our beliefs. Period.
So if someone comes into your life and expresses interest, you will start looking for subtle things to prove that “see the person doesn’t love me”. I knew it. This is how it always ends. You will unconsciously sabotage the relationship to support your belief.
The way out of this is awareness! Start paying attention to your tendency to draw conclusions about what things mean. When you are in conversations with people, how often are you really listening to what is being said and how often are you listening through your filters of what you “think” is being said based on your belief?
The truth is, you can’t really hear when you are listening through your filters. You will only hear what you want to hear, what is consistent with your belief and often times it’s not accurate or clear.
So when I say to remain open, what I mean is to notice yourself telling these stories, drawing these conclusions and instead of shutting down and saying “see, this is what is true” – remain open to the possibility of a different outcome. Remain open to the possibility that the person could mean something else. Remain open to possibility in general.
This is how you drop your story. This is how you shift your belief. You become willing for it to show up in a different way. You don’t have to figure it out, you don’t have to struggle. You only have to be aware of when you are doing it and make a choice to remain open to a different outcome.
Otherwise, you will keep creating the same scenarios over and over and over again. Wondering why you. Believing that this is your cold hard reality that you are victim to, the way life is. When the truth is you are creating it.
Isn’t that freeing?? You hold the keys to shifting any situation in your life! And the key is #1 becoming aware of what you’re doing #2 remaining open to it being different this time.
In the beginning you may still create the same scenario a few times but if you remain open each time this shows up, you will eventually create a new flow and will see changes and before long, you will be experiencing a totally different reality that before looked impossible. Give it a try!
For the next few days. Start paying attention to the stories you tell yourself and others about “the way things are”. When situations arise, what are you telling yourself to be true about the situation? What type of conclusions do you draw about things that happen in your life?
PS. If you are ready to shine a light, bring more awareness and break through old beliefs in your life. PM me. Let’s work together! Coaching makes a HUGE difference in our ability to create shifts!
It amazes me at how often we get in our own way and/or over complicate things. I keep being called to share my message on a regular basis. It shows up over and over again. I'm getting constant confirmation that I need to be writing, teaching, sharing in some way. I get excited about this. My head swims with ideas. I send a few messages, create a few videos then blam....I fall flat. I go into my head and start over thinking things and things stop flowing. I end up talking about things that are important to me but are not as close to my heart as I'd like to share. I feel further away.
How many of you know what I'm talking about? When we are in the flow of our lives, we are on fire, we feel the sun on our face, things are clicking into place. We reach a certain point of happiness and connection then bam. We allow doubt or indecision to steal our sun.
Things certainly look different in the shadows. It's interesting to me how quickly our shift of focus can cast shadows and how seductive our old story is!
When you are moving your gaze from your old story to a new one, there's a little struggle that takes place. This happens whether this story be with your food, your relationships, your business, your beliefs about "how it is".
When you decide to drop the story and start creating a new one, you now have two things competing for your attention. You know that what you give your attention to grows but dammit that old story has been playing a long time and the outside world is still reflecting it....it's so believable and so easy to look back and believe the old story to be true.
But the truth is that it is just a story. It's all just a story. So you rub your eyes, seek clarity of vision and focus back on the story that you hold true in your heart. The more you focus on this heart felt truth, the more it becomes your reality.
The outside world tells you that your crazy. This could never work. You need to do what everyone else is going. These things have been proven. What you are saying is just a dream. Dreams don't come true. Face reality.
But you believe! You keep drawing your focus back to this idea, to this feeling that you know to be true! Over time you begin seeing this little glimmer that is your dream growing momentum, building strength, it start poking it's head through the ground. Wait a minute! It is real! You weren't delusional after all! You are creating it! It's happening!
This is my job! I see people! I am a believer! I help people hold and create their vision. I have created many visions. I love creating out of the box. I show people how to bring these flickers into full flowing reality.
Every day, we gain momentum!!
I have made a commitment to share my message every day for the next five days. I am going to share whatever wants to come through me at the time. No filters. No plan. No over thinking. Just sharing my heart with you.
What are you trying to shift in your life? Send me a message. I would love to help you break through!
Speaking of the heart<3 Heart disease runs in my family so this is a topic near to my heart. In my opinion heart disease is really a love disease.
What I've observed over the years about the heart dis-ease in my family were the obvious things, smoking & eating habits. But, what I also noticed was the inability or resistance to give and receive love. There was a lot of hardening of the heart in my family. I don't think my family is alone on this. When you carry around years of unresolved pain, shit starts getting heavy. How can the heart keep up?!
We have all suffered some sort of pain in our lives that has caused us to want to shut down our hearts. Some of these decisions were made as children, some not, some conscious, some not.
When my dad died four years ago, I vowed to myself that I would open my heart and to learn to give and receive love. I have always taken care of my heart physically (well for a long time anyway) but I had definitely hardened it years ago and it hasn't been easy dropping the habit. And that’s what it is, a habit! The good thing about habits is that they can be changed We have a choice! My dad always told me– “it’s your choice, Miss Boice!” Damn I hated hearing it then but now I remind myself of it each day. Wise man.
We all want to keep ourselves safe. But what we don't realize is that hardening of the heart causes us to shut out and actually push away what it is we are so desperately wanting – LOVE!
Have you ever tried to get close to someone who has a hardened heart? It's literally impossible.
The path of healing the heart takes courage and trust! Courage to love again. Courage to let others close again. Courage to drop the story and make a new choice. Trust that you can handle whatever happens. Trust that your life is unfolding perfectly – the perceived good and bad.
The heart is quite literally a muscle. Muscles need to be exercised. Giving – Receiving, Loving – Hurting, Expanding – Contracting – Expanding some more. Stretch those heart muscles! You CAN handle it! It’s just energy passing through.
Part of my practice now is this --> when I feel my heart closing around a certain situation, I consciously open it instead. I feel a tightening in my chest and I breathe and make a choice to expand it instead. It’s never as bad as we think. Especially, when we open and allow whatever it is to pass through. It’s energy passing through. The hardening, darkness and heaviness come from closing and holding on.
When we close our hearts around a situation, we cut off flow. When we allow ourselves to remain open, emotions can pass on through. They don’t have to become a heaviness that we carry around for years to come.
Start paying attention to your heart and what it’s trying to show you. Your heart is your greatest teacher. Drop down the heavy walls and let it expand. You are safe. You are love. You are free.
PS. Ready to break through, drop the bull shit and get on with living/loving? Message me, let’s talk!
So I have wanted to come out in this way for a LONG TIME!!! I'm going to start sharing with you from my heart! Here goes. I have always had deeper understanding. I've always been different. I've always kept a large part of me to myself b/c others didn't seem to understand. So I hid. I was trained to be nice - if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it. But it goes way deeper than that. Socially, I was taught that other people are right, you are wrong. We have to alter ourselves to fit in. I guess as an adult, this hasn't affected me as much b/c I've just found a few people that I like and stay to myself.
But when I my daughter came along, it all came up again. She is in first grade this year. She is intense too, you see. She screams when she can't get it right. She will sit at the monkey bars screaming and crying because she wants to do the kewl flip the other girls are doing so bad but she's scared or can't get it right. I TOTALLY understand her. I was this same girl.
I would cry every week at dance lesson b/c I couldn't get it perfect. I would go home and practice and practice until I got it down. I was sooooo intense and so is she. The thing is, I understand her intensity. I've actually had people tell me that I need to shut her up, she should not be allowed to act that way. They don't understand why she is doing it. So it has been my job to stand there at her side encouraging her.
What I see is that my job is to teach her how to deal with these intense frustrating feelings. And sometimes it's not pretty! But I don't shun her in public like my parents did to me. They just wanted to silence me and my intensity. Of course they didn't know how to deal with it either. I can see that others don't understand us or what we are doing. Parents and children look at us, they ask what is wrong with her? I just say that she is frustrated and trying to get the hang of something. Period. I explain to the other kids what she is going through and then they begin to understand her and her intensity and more importantly why she is so upset. The more they understand, the more they try to encourage her too.
I have a strong willed child. VERY strong willed. I was that same child so I know! Some times I think I am too understanding with her. I def work every day to find that balance. I just want to teach her that she is okay. Intensity and all. That I am there and I love her no matter what! Her momma will be there supporting and guiding her. I want her to love and accept herself, her intensity and sensitivity.
As an adult strong willed child, I see that the intensity she is experiencing is her absolute strength as an adult. People constantly as me how I have the energy to do all that I do. How I have the drive to recreate my life over and over again. And I know that this intensity is my fire! It's my fuel that burns and the more I learn how to work with it and wield it, the more I am able to create my highest potential in the world. My job as a parent to this strong willed child and my job to myself is to encourage, love, accept and nurture that intensity and also learn/teach how to shape it into something amazing!!!